Ask Self Known // 003

Hello my fabulous friends! How is everyone today? It's been a crazy week for me. I'm having a hard time blogging... All I've wanted to do is write for my WIP, so... You may not hear much from me in the following weeks. :}

Anyways...

As you may or may not have noticed, the Self Known Advice column skipped a week and got shifted today. This is due to the fact that I started school last week and I've been so dang busy. It feels like I haven't gotten anything done. I'm all over the place. Anyone have any tips for that? ;)

Here are today's questions and answers! Enjoy, and make sure to send me your questions below. :)

1. Hey! I have a big problem with self confidence... how do I "get more"?

Define confidence.

What is confidence to you? Is it having enough willpower to say no? Is it breaking out of your shell and asking out that really cute guy you're friends keep catching you staring it?

Take a good chunk of your day to sit yourself down and define what confidence is to you. Then, come up with a simple visualization exercise that somewhat follows these guidelines:

Sit down with your eyes closed and imagine what it feels like to be confident. What do you see? What are you doing? What do you hear, touch, taste? What do you smell? Keep your thoughts positive and go through this little exercise at least once daily. You'll find yourself starting to implement your visions into your life.

Change your mindset.

As you expand and grow your confidence, don't think of it as "getting more". Think of at as growing your person and becoming a better version of yourself.

Related: Turn yourself into a superhero (in only 5 easy steps)

2. Blogger won't let me add the followers gadget even though I have continuously tried to do what they asked (like clearing my cache, etc.) I still can't add it. Few people know how to follow my blog otherwise. What do you suggest?

Here are a few suggestions:

1. Switch to Bloglovin'

Bloglovin' is a huge platform that many readers use. Sign up and put the gadget in your sidebar + posts, then make an announcement saying that you've made the switch. If you have a lot of GFC followers, then this may feel like starting over to you, but if you have an active audience, you'll gain your followers back in no time.

2. Add a link + instructions

Create a page entitled "Follow" on your blog with the link to the sign up page for GFC (example link below). Then instruct followers to use that link to follow you. :)

https://www.blogger.com/follow-blog.g?blogID=xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

Can't find your blog ID? Create a post in Blogger and look through the URL (example below). Copy and past the numbers that come after "blogID=" to retrieve your blog ID.

https://www.blogger.com/blogger.g?blogID=xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

3. Utilize your email list

Welp. Nothing's worked. This may be the time for you to look into getting an email list. The people who subscribe will get your posts directly in your inbox, so it won't be a hassle for either one of you. I recommend Feedburner (if you're fine with little control over how the emails look, when they're sent out, etc.) and MailChimp (a little more complex, but worth the time it will take you to figure it out).

4. Email me with your link

If none of these helped you, or you need more help, please email me with your link so I can look into the problem further. :)

3. How do you create the hover that changes the color? (Like the tabs under your 'Let's Socialize' section)

I created the hover that changes the color of my tabs using a simple change in my template's HTML and CSS. :) Here's how:

HTML: PLEASE BACK UP YOUR TEMPLATE BEFORE MAKING ANY CHANGES!

Find the following code:

<b:widget id='PageList1' locked='false' title='Pages'type='PageList'>

Several lines below it you'll find this:

<li class='selected'><a expr:href='data:link.href'><data:link.title/></a></li>
<b:else/>
<li expr:class='data:link.title'><aexpr:href='data:link.href'><data:link.title/></a></li>

Replace with this:

<li expr:class='data:link.title + &quot; selected&quot;'><a expr:href='data:link.href'><data:link.title/></a></li> <b:else/>
<li expr:class='data:link.title'><a expr:href='data:link.href'><data:link.title/></a></li>

Save your template.
 

CSS

.PageList li.About a:hover { background-color: #f46444;
border: solid 1px #333 !important; }

.PageList li.Bestow a:hover { background-color: #fffa96;
border: solid 1px #333 !important; }

.PageList li.Contact a:hover {background-color: #c9faaa;
border: solid 1px #333 !important; }

.PageList li.Design a:hover {background-color: #92ebbe;
border: solid 1px #333 !important; }

.PageList li.Existence a:hover {background-color: #e7d1e8;
border: solid 1px #333 !important; }

Note: You will have to change the codes on bold to match the titles of your pages.

Save your changes, then you're done. :)

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